Whether there will be a speedy decay of monogamous marriage?
Private divorces and abstaining from marriage Do not speak about the imminent collapse of permanent monogamous marriage itself?
Short and simple answer to this question is obviously no. This is a multifaceted problem, intertwined with a variety of other problems. Yet I would like to draw attention to just one thing, but, in my opinion, very significant - and unexplored - phenomenon.
We are talking about a forced male emancipation. To understand the causes of this phenomenon and its consequences, it is necessary to throw a glance into the recent past - at a time when the transformation process, known as the emancipation of women. The successes achieved by mankind in science, engineering, economics, education and culture - and especially the victories won democracy in civilized countries - all this created the conditions for a radical change in the status of women in society.
Quickly increased self-awareness and the educational level of women has gradually increased its share in the field of intellectual activity in the economy and politics. Women make up the majority now among teachers and doctors, they become scientists, directors, members of governments and heads of state.
The main feature of this process was the acquisition of almost all of the women of the economic and psychological independence, which eventually gave them quite different than before, the possibilities for the device of their family life and self-realization.
Historically, the process of women's emancipation took place in a very short period of time - it was not an evolution, but a revolution.
Such a radical and rapid changes in the social position of the weaker sex could not but have an impact on the psyche of men and their attitude towards women. The idea that in the traditional monogamous family man was a ruthless oppressor and exploiter of his wife suppressed her interests and desires - primitive and unfounded.
This is the same, as if to say to the modern man, that they are all alcoholics, or about women, that they whore. So, in the past, the general law was yet another circumstance - a man in a direct and literal sense of the word was the head of his family and was making maximum use of their work, skill and ability, to ensure the well-being of his wife and children.
It goes without saying that if you have financial difficulties and in terms of social inequality husband is not always able to cope with these duties. Yet my husband felt responsible for his family, being in this role recognized and respected by society as its head.
What, then, was the result of the emancipation of women? And that man gradually became more acutely aware that his wife, which he had to take care and protect her, perfectly able to cope with all this herself, without his help.
Her husband also noticed that his wife has now become an independent, able to decide for itself how it should live, and she prefers to choose a life partner or a friend. the number of divorces initiated by women, the prestige of the husband as the head of the family began to fall sharply increased.
The old, from generation to generation by the role was a deformed man. And there is nothing surprising in the fact that in this situation, the man began to deliberate - but, for the most part, even instinctive - to reassess their functions husband and head of the family, and the leitmotif of this revaluation was the principle: if equality since equality in all (or almost all). Leading speech about women's and men's emancipation and its impact on society - especially in the relations between the sexes - it is impossible not to notice the obvious difference in principle of this phenomenon in relation to women and men.
If the emancipation of women has meant above all the achievement of equal social status with men and the consequent expansion of its family rights and duties, men's emancipation was limited mainly the changing role of men in the family - especially his release from the duties of an authoritarian head of the family.
Despite the fact that both the female and the ensuing men's emancipation were caused by laws of social development - especially the successes achieved in science, engineering and manufacturing, - however finding the right role undergone fundamental changes of the new structure of the family appeared to many men and women difficult.
Some men, for example, believe that there is little hope of finding a loyal family of faithful wife in the present situation, and therefore prefer to remain single. Lack of adaptability to modern family life - one of the causes of alcohol abuse. Unfortunately, there is no shortage of women who, hiding in the shadow of emancipation, lightly give birth to itself new sexual partners, without worrying about the education of children.
It is likely that it is because of these reasons, in civilized countries, a growing number of people who do not wish to be bound by the traditional family. According to A. Toffler, now the majority of US citizens live outside t. N. nuclear family.
According to the same author, only for the period between 1970 and 1978. number of single Americans ages 14 to 34 years has increased almost threefold -.. 1, 5 million to 4, 3 million in the Soviet Union lived alone about 50 million people, including 35 million women... So, to summarize and sum up all the pros and cons of the complex processes that occurred in the family is not easy. One thing is clear: as the above, and many other objective and subjective factors had a strong impact on gender relations.
Positive can be considered, for example, that the relationship between men and women have become more direct and honest. On the other hand, it must be noted that this relationship began at the same time somewhat more superficial: often lack understanding and friendly persistence, which is actually so people need in life.
Due to changes in family relationships and the revaluation of family values we can confidently say that the traditional monogamous family for several decades, is in crisis. The main feature of this crisis is that none of the couples - neither husband nor wife - he did not know exactly what it is, in fact, can and should ask for from her husband what he wanted from him waiting, and that he himself for his family happiness ready do and what to reject.
However, since we are talking about the crisis of the family, it does not mean its extinction, extinction. Marriage just acquired a new content and possibly new forms.
It seems that in the current situation, most importantly, that we have a conscious desire to bring the dynamics of social development in compliance with the existing e biological laws that have been and will remain virtually unchanged.
Let us not forget that, despite the social and economic progress of society, humanity still has two much-needed and seeking each other parts - both men and women. And no emancipation will not diminish in the eyes of men of noble moral dignity of women, her warm-heartedness and other feminine values, as well as in the eyes of the women did not reduce it virtues of masculinity, which is characterized above all the courage to overcome difficulties and ability to be unwavering support to his wife and family.
I want to hope that our young people find in today's fast paced world, a sure way to create a family, where the children would feel the love of their parents, which would be created conditions for the maximum development of their abilities and the formation of people with a healthy psyche.
I think that overcoming the crisis of the family depends on this stage primarily on prudence and the men and women of their sense of responsibility, of a willingness to take reasonable concessions - and, finally, in the knowledge that nothing requires us to greater self-control, more high moral standards and noble ideals, rather than freedom.